I recently finished the first and second seasons of 13 reasons why and to say it was an emotional rollercoaster would be a pretty big understatement. I know i’m a bit late to the party but if i’m being honest, it took me a while to get through the series. Not that I didn’t love it, it just hit pretty close to home and I had to take frequent breaks between episodes. That being said, I am so so grateful that this series was created and presented in such a raw and honest manner. I think there are a lot of extremely important lessons we can all take away from 13 Reasons Why, but here are 4 that especially stuck out to me.
Actions DO NOT always speak louder than words
I think a big reason bullying is such a problem especially in high school is because kids really do think they’re invincible and have no idea the impact that simple WORDS can have on somebody. You don’t need to be physically beating on someone to seriously wound them, but I find because we can’t SEE the damage, it often goes unnoticed or unaddressed. It’s so important to think before we speak – I know we’ve heard that since we were like 5 years old from our parents and teachers, it seems like such a no brainer but we really do need to be more aware of our words and people’s feelings.
Covering up problems does not make them go away
If you’ve been with me for a while you know I stand by this firmly – it is more than okay to ask for help sometimes!! There is nothing remotely weak about admitting to needing help, in fact I believe it makes you incredibly BRAVE. You are not weak and you have not failed, you are simply human. I know it seems, especially through social media, that there is such thing as perfection – that people lead glamorous lives without a problem in the world but the truth is, everyone has their problems. To be imperfect is to be human. I’ve struggled with this a lot so I totally understand the appeal of trying to appear okay, but in many instances this only makes things worse. Bottling up your feelings can be so toxic. I find when i’m not talking about what’s going on inside my head one thing just stacks up on another and it becomes impossible to think about anything other than the fury of mess going on inside my head. Talking about it can really be such a big reliever.
Don’t be scared to reach out to people
Seriously, you never know what one simple kind gesture can do for a person! One of the main things I took away from this series is you never really know what’s going on inside someone else’s head.This is why I think it’s so important for us to be kind to one another, there doesn’t need to be a special occasion or reason to simply be kind! Say hi to strangers, like what somebody is wearing? Tell them!! One thing i’ve started doing is TELLING people when I think they’re pretty or if they look especially fierce that day … sound odd? I really don’t think it is! I know that when I receive random compliments i’m over the moon on cloud freaking 9, It really just makes my day. We shouldn’t be afraid to interact with people and just be friendly – you never know the impact you can be having on somebody.
“Being a teenager” doesn’t make your feelings invalid
One thing I think really needs to be addressed is the mentality that because somebody is “young” their feelings are somehow invalid. Being a teenager is an extremely dramatic and difficult time and it’s easy to brush their feelings off as being a “drama queen” or going through a “phase”. While it’s true that adolescence is full of drama and phases, it doesn’t make the feelings any less REAL! This time in a person’s life is one of the most trying and confusing and sometimes it really does feel like the end of the world and I think people need to be more patient and understanding with that. Just because you are young does not mean that what you are feeling isn’t valid.
If you haven’t read 13 Reasons Why, or watched the series I highly recommend that you do. It touches on so many extremely important topics that should be spoken about. It will change the way you think and has opened my eyes greatly to the consequences certain actions can have.
I know life can get pretty gloomy sometimes but while the world is full of some pretty suckish people, it’s also filled with so much joy and kindness, never forget that!
Wishing you all the most beautiful week!